When you have an emotional connection in bed, it doesn’t matter what you do – because it will always be good. When you have sex with a woman, your focus should be on communication. It’s as vital as creating good flow Without both communication and arousal, a woman won’t even agree to have sex in the first place. When you have an emotional connection in bed, you’ll feel love, intimacy and closeness. And that’s the whole point of communicating in bed. Emotional connection isn’t something magical that happens if the “chemistry” is right. It’s something you do. It’s something you have to create. It’s up to you to create an emotional connection between you and your partner – both during foreplay and while having sex. It isn’t difficult to do, but for us guys it’s easy to forget.